Monday, May 28, 2007

"When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bicycle. Then I realised that the Lord doesn't work that way so I stole one and asked Him to forgive me."

We do that to our family, to our friends, to random people without really thinking what we mean by asking for their forgiveness..
I'd been thinking about it and I did have this problem with one of my so-called special people.. You know when you look back to see what went wrong and why and stuffs.. And I realized sometimes when people just ask for your forgiveness it's not cuz they mean it.. It's just that they wanna stop the whole fight.. And what can you say when someone tells you he/she is sorry??!! You can't say I can't forgive you! cuz that's the end of the friendship.. You can't act like everyhting's cool Cuz then you can't go on and talk about what has made you upset!!!
What happens is that you say it's ok but deep down you know it is not ok at all.. and then next thing happens and again you hear how he's sorry and again like you have no other choice you just say it's ok..
What the poor guy doesn't know is that he is playing with a TICKING BOMB and every single stupid apology that you hear gets him closer to your bad side! And then one day simply BOOM!! The bomb's exploded in the relationship and the damages are so high that you better just leave it as is and let go!
I know fights are terrible.. People say things that they don't mean them, people make each other angry and stuffs but after each fight there is a make up which makes the whole thing sweeter..
Next time say you're sorry when you really mean it.. You would see what a huge difference it makes..

1 comment:

Unknown said...

For a hydraulic structure like a dam, it is desired to have small earthquakes every month rather than a huge one in a year or so...a stable dam does not care so much about small movements and get healed after each one with letting them go and not absorbing and keeping them inside or somewhere in his/her pocket…
when the poor-mentioned guy apologizes, two scenarios come up:
On one hand, she thinks he does not truly mean that and he is just fooling around to put a full stop mark to the conversation, fight or argument. If I was entitled to give a piece of advice to her, I would say that just leave him bcuz he is a jerk!
On the other hand, she is more than 95% percent certain that he is aware of his mistake and that is why he tries to get forgiven. With apologies, he is begging for her friendship and her trust like past just bcuz he is here to put smile on her face and the most importantly being her best special friend.
This coin has another side though...honest apologies can expect honest forgiveness by friends. It is absolutely not fair to fake forgiveness by saying “its ok” or “u r forgiven” just to continue a friendship and getting closer to BOOM!
As far as I know the poor guy, he lobes his lovely princess so he is not going to sit at the corner and wait for explosion (BOOM!). he would probably use all his efforts to wipe her love’s mind out of all gharazha chon gharazha tire midarad doosti ra

Dar nazar baazi maa bi khabaraan heiraanand
Man choninam ke nemoodam, degar ishaan daanand

I bet he would like to say sorry and make a huge difference...